- Being Barbie: An Introduction to Dollification Fetish
- Selling Sex: Kinky Cam Whoring for Fun and Profit!
- Mind Control and Brainwashing, Truth and Fiction
- Dark Side of Hypnosis – Edgeplay, Mindfucks and Trauma
- Beyond Pirates and Schoolgirls: Kinky Roleplaying
- “My ass is sore…you take out the fucking garbage…” – the realities of power exchange
- Death Fetish: the ultimate taboo
- Mind Reading on both sides of the slash
- The Hierarchy of Needs and Power Exchange
- “I want you to run my life!” – Negotiations for Power Exchange
- “I’m not sure this relationship is good for me”…when power exchange is unhealthy
- Social contract as a concept in Power Exchange
- M/s without a Tradition – Power Exchange for the rest of us
Being Barbie: An Introduction to Dollification Fetish
Does dressing up get you hot? Is objectification one of your kinks? Do you dream of being played with? Or maybe you’re interested in owning the most versatile of toys? Whatever your interest, dollification fetish presents a myriad of opportunities to explore kink in fun new ways. In this class we will explore what dollification is, the dynamics that can exist between an Owner and a doll, potential types of doll play, and useful tools and resources for building a better doll.
Selling Sex: Kinky Cam Whoring for Fun and Profit!
From exhibitionism to extra cash, there are numerous reasons why cam work is an appealing option. But how do you go about getting into the field? What makes for a successful cam whore? What features and qualities do you look for in a host site? How does an online scene differ from one in person? In this class, we’ll discuss methods to attract and retain customers, developing an online presence, anticipating and navigating potential difficulties, activities and options for things that work in front of a camera, and run through some practice scenarios with experienced cam whore and internet slut Rebecca Doll.
Mind Control and Brainwashing, Truth and Fiction
To be “fully controlled” or to control is a passionate desire so common that no personal ad is complete without it, but talking about the actual techniques of mind control and brainwashing is forbidden mental edgeplay. We’ll look at BDSM “myths” as well as the realities of changing the way the brain works – forever. Subtle and invisible, mind control leaves a permanent mark that is the mental equivalent of branding. We’ll focus on understanding positive and negative reinforcement, drivers, and the extinction of behaviors, leaving you with a clear understanding of the mechanisms behind using both reward and punishment to create permanent change in the human mind.
Dark Side of Hypnosis – Edgeplay, Mindfucks and Trauma
Visions of erotic violence or sinister control dominate our movies and fantasies. From chainsaw disembowelment to death to formative sexual trauma, many of our most delicious fantasies are unsafe or inaccessible. While we may visit these things under the aegis of “pathworking” or “ritual,” one of the most direct and controllable forms of visualization is too often off the table. Learn the use of hypnosis to go with malice aforethought into those dark recesses only touched before, and take edgeplay further than the physical. Note that this is a workshop about brutal edgeplay, not about healing psychic trauma. Learn techniques for transferring pain, creating artificial sensation, and controlling orgasm. While we will discuss how to create informed consent for this type of mental play, this is not an ethics workshop and it may involve references or demonstrations centering on psychic trauma which may be disturbing.
Beyond Pirates and Schoolgirls: Kinky Roleplaying
We start by dressing up, but called on to play the role of the dastard or the damsel in distress we often feel ludicrous or self-conscious. Learn how to use basic theatrical and writing techniques, as well as character templates and plot outlines, to build a successful roleplay that doesn’t leave you feeling like a fool. Stanislavski’s method and basic plot building are a part of this class, which will end with you designing your own Roleplay. More fun with a partner, bring an open mind.
“My ass is sore…you take out the fucking garbage…” – the realities of power exchange
We all know it happens. The bliss and magic have started to wear thin and the issues of money, other partners, chores and work are closing in. There are rumblings of mutiny. Can this power exchange survive? We’ll present basic techniques for defusing, renegotiating, and surviving when the NRE wears off. Leave the haze of books and movies and join in on a realistic discussion about how power exchange actually works. We’ll look at how partners overcommit and why, and work with participants to graph their own power exchange.
Death Fetish: the ultimate taboo
The seething sexuality of slasher films and Suicide Girls illustrate that concepts of death and sex are inseparable in our minds. But Death is the ultimate “no fly” zone of fetishes, too scary and immediate for many to be comfortable with. We all know that fantasizing doesn’t mean wanting, but when it comes to death too many TV shows have convinced us that we shouldn’t dig too deep, leaving players willing to transgress the taboo without a playbook or the safety tips that routinely cover other areas of fetish. We’ll investigate the roots of our sexualized obsession with death, and look into ways that deathplay can be incorporated into our scenes with a strong eye towards safety, physical and emotional.
Mind Reading on both sides of the slash
“Dominants are not mind-readers.” “I’m a submissive not a telepath.” Maybe. D/s isn’t like figuring out what a boss or parent wants. Often it can be a tiptoe through minefields of explosive sexuality and sexual repression. Humans that want to control or be controlled are not always honest about the reasons and complications. We can’t teach you telepathy, but we can give you seven basic tips for understanding how humans work, how they deceive themselves, and how they respond to control.
The Hierarchy of Needs and Power Exchange
“I’m not just doing this as a bedroom game…I need to be in control/controlled.” “I’m responsible for his/her/their well being.” “I don’t want to be hurt, but I need it.” Power exchange is about meeting the needs of another and having our own needs met. But how do we know what our needs are? How do we tell needs from wants? How do we understand when our partner’s needs are deeply different from our own? Why can our needs include hurting others or being hurt and how can we make that compatible with a healthy power exchange? We’ll work to explore answers to these questions that are right for you, while helping you understand the differences in your partner.
“I want you to run my life!” – Negotiations for Power Exchange
From marks to hard limits you know how to negotiate a BDSM scene. But Power Exchange is not sceneplay. Is their bank account, child, transportation, and job just an afterthought? “Sure I won’t interfere with those.” Often when power exchange collides with real life, we don’t have a plan. This class focuses on negotiations outside of sceneplay. Other partners, time away, safer sex, chains of command, families and finances, approached from the standpoint that there is no “right” and “wrong” only a power dynamic that suits your individual needs.
I’m not sure this relationship is good for me…when power exchange is unhealthy
“I was too badly burned…I’ll never do that again.” Many of the old norms and assumptions about power exchange relationships seem custom designed mask massive insecurity, defense mechanisms, and codependence. For some of us, character or upbringing has made a normal egalitarian relationship difficult, undesirable, or even impossible. Often we focus on “staying away” from “abusive” power exchange relationships but many relationships carry the seeds of unhealthy behaviors, and turn bad as unprepared people stumble unintentionally into pitfalls. If we followed all the safety warnings, many power exchange relationships would never happen. We’ll focus on the technical aspects of how bad relationships form and the personal characteristics such as PTSD, denial, and repression, that work to create them.
Social contract as a concept in Power Exchange
“She can do anything she wants to me, I have no volition.” “He could cut my arms and legs off…he has that power.” “She was abusive to me.” “They violated my trust as property.” “He went too far.” The most detailed power exchange contract cannot cover everything and many partners have no contract at all. Many do fine without “rules” and others feel violated and betrayed even when the rules said their partner had “all the power.” Social contract is the way in which people make implicit statements about who they are and how they will behave, and most feelings of betrayal in power exchange happen when that unwritten, unspoken, contract is broken. Yet fuzzy statements and fiction often invite us to cross those lines. Understand what social contract is, and how it relates to consent and all relationships, even those without written rules.
M/s without a Tradition – Power Exchange for the rest of us
I don’t feel a connection with leather tradition and I’m not interested in Gor. Is there M/s for the rest of us? Traditions of power exchange with a strong ownership or master/slave dynamic tend to emphasize tradition, to the extent some people don’t feel they can “belong.” Nobody has a copyright on the concept of personal, consensual, lifestyle Master/slave relations, but fictional models such as 50 Shades fall well short of delivering a viable framework. Personal M/s is an a la carte tradition, but you’ll walk away with a gameplan for defining your needs and style in M/s. Great for those who are thinking about taking the step into M/s and useful for anyone who isn’t quite sure if their current dynamic “fits.”